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ISBN: 9781615197965
Published: April 12, 2022
Price: $16.95 US / $21.95 CAN
Paperback: 272 pages
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Do As I Say, Not Who I Did
Honest Advice on Hookups and Relationships in College
by Ali Drucker
 

This is shame-free, affirmative sex education for college-age women, and anyone just discovering what they want
 
Do As I Say, Not Who I Did is not subtle, delicate, or laced in metaphor. . . . It’s compelling, funny, and unflinchingly educational while delivering a stream of unconditional compassion for the reader.”—Daily Campus

It’s hard to overstate how much we put pressure on early sexual encounters—and how little real advice is out there. How do I deal when I keep running into my one-night stand? How can I tell if I’m too drunk to have sex? How do I say stop when I’m not really into it? Why do I keep getting all these UTIs? 

And most of all: Why is so much of sex ed focused on what could go wrong instead of what actually feels good? In this unflinchingly honest guide to hookups and relationships in the twenty-first century, Ali Drucker answers these questions and more—with “been there, done that” confessional advice, plus input from experts on sexuality and from students in college today.

If you missed out on shame-free, affirmative sex education . . . if you’re nervous about having sex . . . if you’re just discovering what you want (and how to ask for it)—this book is for you.

“Even if you’re long out of college, some of the relationship lessons in Drucker’s book are still good tactics to practice in your late 20s, 30s, and even 40s. No matter what stage of life you’re in, there’s always room for dating improvement.”—Bustle
 
Do As I Say, Not Who I Did is not subtle, delicate, or laced in metaphor –and it’s exactly the sex education college students need. . . It’s compelling, funny, and unflinchingly educational while delivering a stream of unconditional compassion for the reader. While navigating the treacherous waters of mental and sexual health in college, there are few things young women need more than to hear someone say, ‘you are entitled to 100 percent of your intimate desires and beholden to no one else’s.’”Daily Campus

“Drucker combines anecdotes with expert opinions to give readers answers to questions that often go unasked.”Technician 

Ali Drucker is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles who covers sexual health and pop culture. She lives with her husband, temperamental cat, and moderately well-behaved dog. You can find her work in The New York Times, New York magazine, HuffPost, Refinery29, and more. She previously served as the sex and relationships senior editor at Maxim and Cosmo. When she’s not interviewing people about their sex lives, Ali enjoys loading up on SPF and going to the beach, taking easy hikes, and snuggling with her pets while watching old episodes of shows she’s seen a million times on Netflix.


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