Now in an expanded second edition: the first of its kind—clear advice for “undermothered” adults left feeling empty (and wondering why)
With this groundbreaking book, licensed psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of adults identify and heal a wound many didn’t know they had. Adults who were “undermothered” often go on to struggle with relationships—and their own self-worth. For some, their mothers may have been fine on the outside, but not present enough to provide adequate nurturing. For others, their mother may have crossed over to be hurtful or demeaning.
Full of compassion for children and mothers alike, this second edition of The Emotionally Absent Mother now addresses:
- Childhood emotional neglect, abuse, and their effects
- Psychological disorders that may have affected one’s mother: Why is she shut down? What can’t she give her child?
- And how grown children can approach their mothers now.
—Connie Dawson, PhD, coauthor of Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children
“With compassion and sparkling clarity, Jasmin Lee Cori describes the effects of being under-mothered and what it takes to overcome them. Her book will be of great value to new mothers serious about creating a loving environment for their children, adult sons and daughters who want at long last to fill the holes in their hearts, and clinicians interested in understanding and healing the mother wound.”
—Evelyn Bassoff, PhD, psychotherapist and author of Mothering Ourselves: Help and Healing for Adult Daughters
“Jasmin Lee Cori has done a superb job of describing the importance of childhood attachment needs and the psychological wounds that get inflicted when an emotionally absent mother cannot meet those needs well enough. She has skillfully laid out clear steps wounded adults can take to identify their inner strengths and heal attachment wounds. I wholeheartedly recommend this book for anyone who wishes to understand and heal the wounds that can arise when parented by an emotionally absent mother.”
—Shirley Jean Schmidt, MA, LPC, author of The Developmental Needs Meeting Strategy: An Ego State Therapy for Healing Adults with Childhood Trauma and Attachment Wounds
“This book effortlessly intertwines neuroscience with clinical acumen in a lovely work of extraordinary depth. In her compelling, heart-rending analysis of the importance of motherhood, Jasmin Lee Cori has created a work as significant as Alice Miller’s Prisoners of Childhood. Easily accessible and very useful, it is a must-read for parents-to-be, those in the helping professions, and adults who have been wounded by a negligent parent.”
—Kate Crowley, OTD, OTR/L, University of Southern California
“With a compassionate and steady voice, Jasmin Lee Cori guides the reader through the difficult terrain faced by adults who have grown up without sufficient emotional mothering. Relying on personal experience and practice as a psychotherapist, she provides insight and tools to help readers overcome the challenges of a painful childhood and to move into the pleasures of living adult life fully.”
—Kathryn Black, MA, psychotherapist, author of Mothering Without a Map: The Search for the Good Mother Within